Every Monday i for the past 3 years i have written a Manna Monday motivational piece on Monday; this was to just appreciate life and the chance to make a difference in the life of other people's lives as well. Monday is a new lease to life and we should stop complaining that it is here, yet other people did not see the light or day of the day day you are loathing!
Below are the last 2 posts that have had the most hits likes and comments since i started posting Manna Monday.
Monday 7 July 2014
Manna Monday: Self Forgiveness Mahatma Gandhi“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” ― Mahatma Gandhi, All Men are Brothers: Autobiographical Reflections
We are always encouraged to forgive others, 70x7per person the bible says, i want to challenge you this week to be patient with self and forgive yourself especially for the who decisions we make time and again that then cost us money and heart ache. i have been going through a self forgiving process this last week, boy did i through a pity party, i was suffering from rejection and of the decisions i have made that were terrible and have cost me relationships, money and progress in life. what i have realized is i have been very hard on myself, not that i should lower my standards and expectations, but come on, i am also human. Besides i know the truth coz its me, i know me, and at times forgiving oneself is hard, but it has got to be done!
These decisions and actions include the deals you did, that you then realized you were lied you and it was fraudulent; people you have trusted with your secrets; people you have dated; jobs you left for another, only to realize the grass is greener on the other side because its on a septic tank. there are so many things what we say i wish i coulda woulda shoulda, we then become so hard on ourselves we even self sabotage.
the reason we are sad and we delay with progress is because we are so ashamed of the decisions we made that we can't even begin to forgive ourselves. Forgiveness is not an event, its a process; so start today to forgive yourself, you know what it is; you know what hurts you and slows you down. its ok to cry and be sad about it, but you have to get ahold of yourself and forgive yourself; then accept the apology and move on; say the serenity prayer and be at peace with yourself.
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.
We only live once and usually we are our own obstacles in life for progress and happiness; decide today to live a life that you forgive yourself and be more gracious with oneself. this is because forgiveness is a gift you give yourself!
Monday July 14 2014
Manna Monday: Self Forgiveness continued
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience
I was having a comprehensive discussion with my work mates last week on forgiving self and moving on. I learnt amazing facts from Slyvia Chahwanda that i ha to share, because it changed my life and helped me to let go and forgive myself faster. Tete (my dad's cousin) said that Tendai, go easy on yourself, you can not always cry over spilt milk because of the decisions you made which have now brought about serious repercussions or back lash now" She said, " when you made that decision at that time it made perfect sense to go that route, you had fully analysed and came to the conclusion that was the best decision to make. Now you are not in control of what then happens to the receivers of that decision and how they are as honest as you are on the same decision."
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience
I was having a comprehensive discussion with my work mates last week on forgiving self and moving on. I learnt amazing facts from Slyvia Chahwanda that i ha to share, because it changed my life and helped me to let go and forgive myself faster. Tete (my dad's cousin) said that Tendai, go easy on yourself, you can not always cry over spilt milk because of the decisions you made which have now brought about serious repercussions or back lash now" She said, " when you made that decision at that time it made perfect sense to go that route, you had fully analysed and came to the conclusion that was the best decision to make. Now you are not in control of what then happens to the receivers of that decision and how they are as honest as you are on the same decision."
Tete made me realize i am only in control of me and not the other person and how they will react to any decision i make. Also embrace that mistakes and mishaps do happen and life has to e allowed to go on, so stop being your own life's biggest obstacle and dust yourself up and try again. The best you can be is honest to yourself and those that matter. Sis Joanne Manda taught me something i will never forget; "you owe no one an explanation, those that love you don't need it and those that don't love you will not believe you." i then learnt that, If you have to explain its for you sake. Hanzi go where you are loved and appreciated and not were you are tolerated. But this all begins with you, teach others how to forgive you so they also find it easy to forgive you.
Learn to say i am sorry to yourself, that way it will not be hard to say SORRY to others.... use this week to apologize to self for all the hurt you have afflicted yourself, punishing you for the decisions you made that then did not turn out as planned. Once you have done this, you will stop blaming self or others for the stagnation in your life, you embrace life, live it, love it, learn from it and laugh in it!
Have a blessed week! Remember let Go and Let God!
Have a blessed week! Remember let Go and Let God!
